Have you ever been sitting at your desk and had these types of thoughts “I don’t belong here.” “I don’t deserve this.” “Everyone is going to find out what a fake I am.”
Or.. maybe it sounds like this. “I’m not good enough to be doing this..”
You’re not alone.
This is called Imposter Syndrome. It’s the feeling that you lucked into where you are and don’t actually know what you’re doing.
Sound familiar?
How can you combat this feeling?
- Recognize your worth. Do you have years of experience? Take extra classes to improve your skills? Regularly receive glowing reviews at work? What about your clients, do they get amazing results?
- Does your passion for what you do, get you excited about life.
- Practice speaking to yourself with kindness and encouragement
- Remember that if you give in to your “Imposter” you may be giving up on raises, promotions, and advancements that you absolutely do observe.
- for the entrepreneur, if you listen to this critic, you may be lowering your rates, or not asking for the sale.
Is Imposter Syndrome something you struggle with? Would you like some help with it?
January ??
The death of Kobe Bryant and his daughter Gianna.
So many lovely comments about the tragedy, and fear or the ‘unthinkable’ happening, the death of a daughter, a child.
I want to offer a different view. One of love and beauty.
This letter to Vanessa Bryant. Wife. Mother.
Most people will see the sadness. It will be there. I hope you can see the love and beauty. It is there.
The passing on of a child before their mother, is taught to us as our greatest pain. One that no parent should have to experience. And yet, it happens. Right now and it may feel like that to you.
There is beauty there too. If we look for it.
* They went together. These two angels, close in life and in death. He, Kobe as father, I imagine had her back even then and maybe for the others, we can’t know.
* We are not alone. No one makes that walk to heaven alone.
* This is our greatest blessing. God looks out for us and He will look out for you.
* Your connection to them will be stronger, then you can possibly imagine. They will speak to you, just listen.
* If life is indeed eternal and we are all One, then their connection is stronger, not lost.
* Love never dies.
Choose to see the love and the beauty. It is there.
How do I know? My son died. In 2016. At 25yo. IT was heartbreaking. Incredibly sad. And one of the most beautiful and loving experiences I’ve ever had. There is beauty in it. And love. Once we can see it that way.
I wish for You:
* Opportunities to talk about them. For someone to ask, “Tell me about Gianna?” and then to listen. What was it like to be married to Kobe? Show me, through your eyes.
* Go easy on yourself. Some days you won’t want to move, some days you won’t want to sit still, both are okay.
* Take your time. Only look at the next ½ hour, if that’s what feels best.
* You will get better!! At having them in your heart.
* You will get stronger. And you will have this spectacular appreciation for that connection to the beauty around you.
IF you look. I hope you look.
To All Those People Close to you. Be there for her. Now. And when everyone goes back to their lives. Try not to ask, what can I do? She may not know. Instead, make the offer, Would you like us to…
To all the men, the fellow basketball players, and coaches, who have spoken of him. They need you now. They’ll continue to need you, to show up for him. For the father daughter dances, or Dad’s day at school or just a simple conversation that answers what was he like?
There is a whole lot of love and beauty in that.
What will you choose to see? I hope you choose to see love and beauty. Its there.
